Do your business and/or life feel stagnant? Are there no real improvements or growth going on? Are you feeling comfortable like the crab? If he stays in his shell, he feels safe and never grows. Would you like to step out of that ho hum comfort zone, get reenergized and grow?
Where are you? What is it that you think you should do but are resistant? Be truthful with yourself. Are you just not sold on doing the changes, or are you fearful of doing it?
If it’s fear it could be the biggest fear we all face – the fear of failure. This can be perceived as not being smart enough, no courage, or just plain lazy. Whatever it is it will tear down your self-esteem. It’s impossible to function at peak performance when your self-esteem is low.
So what do you do? Change you perception of what failure is. The word failure doesn’t need to be in your vocabulary. It conjures up a lot of negative thoughts and feelings that don’t serve you well.
In reality what is failure? “You missed the mark”. When you’re playing darts and you miss your mark, you make a few corrections and throw another dart. If you never missed the mark it would be very boring for you. The miss or “failure” give us the opportunity to learn, make adjustments and continue to improve. This approach will serve you better. It’s productive, fun and doesn’t tear down your self esteem. In fact, it will improve it.
When you’re about to implement the change and you feel the resistance, ask yourself what the resistance is. Are you not sold on doing it or are you fearful of doing it? If you’re not sold on it, you know what to do. If it’s fear, ask yourself:
- What resources do I need?
- Do I have the resources, and if not, where can I get them?
- What is the time period and checkpoints for completion?
- What’s the risk? Can I live with that? What are the rewards?
- When I run into a barrier I will gather the learning and implement the adjustments.
- What are the joys of the journey and the benefits of its success?
Once you have your plan in place and questions answered, then make your commitment. The fear will be replaced with a renewed excitement and vigor. You will feel a renewed energy, keen sharpness and vitality as when you first began your business or relationship.
Do you remember how you felt at the beginning? Remove the fear. Replace it with that new excitement and love and get that feeling back.
Have a wonderful journey!